Couples in Recovery: Finding Coed Addiction Treatment

Couples in Recovery

When both people in a relationship struggle with addiction, it can complicate treatment and recovery. If only one person seeks treatment while the other doesn’t, it can lead to the recurrence of use for the one in recovery. However, coed drug rehab centers allow couples in recovery to stay together while in treatment. 

If both partners are willing to attend couples rehab, they can support each other through treatment. Using a family-oriented treatment approach, couples in recovery benefit from therapies such as behavioral couples therapy. 

The recovery journey is challenging when you’re alone, but even more so as couples in recovery. Couples rehab offers personalized treatment plans for you and your partner. Couples in recovery build the skills to prevent recurrence of use and hold each other accountable. 

Why do Couples Often Share an Addiction?

It is common for both people in the relationship to struggle with drug or alcohol addiction. And regardless of whether both people want the relationship to work, substance misuse can destroy it. Various signs can point to the need for couples rehab, including:

  • Using drugs or alcohol is the only thing they enjoy together.
  • Misusing substances lead to domestic violence by one or both partners.
  • Couples need to be high or drunk to be affectionate.
  • The couple neglects shared responsibilities such as childcare and housework.

As substance use gets worse, it can be difficult for couples to resolve existing issues. It can also lead to more emotional distance between the couple. Furthermore, the issues can result in increasing negative patterns of substance misuse. 

Couples Attending Coed Drug Treatment Centers Together

Couples in Recovery

When couples have a strong relationship, attending couples rehab together can increase lasting recovery. Coed drug rehab centers build off the romantic relationship to help couples achieve and maintain recovery. And, depending on the individual needs of each partner, they attend and participate in treatment together. For instance, attending behavioral couples therapy (BCT) helps with communication, building happier and healthier relationships. 

Treatment Programs in Couples Rehab

One way to get help as a couple is to attend couples rehab. Many coed drug rehab centers allow couples with strong relationships and a desire for recovery to attend treatment together. A key factor for couples in recovery is motivation. For example, motivation increases focus and dedication, resulting in Recovery for Life. 

Couples in Recovery: Separate but United

Attending coed drug rehab centers may also involve the couple attending treatment separately. There may be issues, for instance, that can interfere with recovery. Couples may live in separate rooms if there have been past violent episodes. Additionally, one person may require a more intense therapy program because of psychological issues. 

Still, if couples in recovery are committed to making it work, arrangements can be made to attend therapy together. For example, a regular schedule may include multiple couples therapy sessions together. But otherwise, the couple would be in separate parts of the treatment center or another facility. 

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Couples in Recovery and Mental Health

Substance misuse in relationships makes it difficult to go back to the way things were before addiction started. Even after couples rehab, the chances of a recurrence of use are possible. Sometimes there are even mental or physical injuries that can’t be reversed. Additionally, relationship habits such as codependency need to change before a healthy relationship can continue. 

The Importance of Individualized Treatment in Coed Drug Rehab Centers

Although a couple may enter couples rehab together, recovery is a personal journey of self-discovery and healing. For this reason, healing the individual should be the main focus of couples therapy, being a supplement. Additionally, focusing on member-centered care before couples therapy empowers individuals to be better for themselves and others. 

When Should Couples Not Attend Coed Drug Rehab Centers

There are various situations when attending couples rehab together isn’t a good idea. Some examples of these situations include:

  • One person needs different treatment, such as dual diagnosis treatment that needs a different facility.
  • There’s been a diagnosis of antisocial personality disorder.
  • There is domestic violence in the relationship.
  • Only one person is seeking treatment.
  • Both partners are not interested in a long-term relationship after couples rehab.

It can be a hard decision to seek treatment when the other person isn’t ready. However, you can’t make someone be ready for recovery. Choosing to attend treatment is vital for your recovery and can encourage the other person to follow. 

How Does Addiction Affect Relationships?

There is a lot of talk about the struggles of being in a relationship with a person struggling with addiction. But, we don’t often hear about when both partners are struggling with substance use disorder. The problems may be the same, but now two people have negative patterns and feeding off each other. 

Couples who struggle with substance use disorder may have the following issues:

  • Poor communication
  • Lack of trust
  • Codependency
  • Verbal and physical abuse
  • Intimacy issues

Codependency in Couples with Substance Use Disorder

Couples with substance use disorders often end up codependent on each other. Codependency is a common behavioral and emotional issue in couples with addiction. It is also found in people with low self-worth and self-esteem.

Codependency means sacrificing your needs for the needs of the other person. It also causes compulsive care-taking behaviors and repeated attempts at rescuing the other. Although you think you are caring, it only encourages the misuse of substances and further jeopardizes a healthy relationship.

Signs of Codependency in Couples with Addiction

  • Frequent arguments over drug use, money problems, and avoidance of responsibilities
  • Covering for your partner such as calling them in sick when they have a hangover
  • Using substances as a way to cope with relationship stress
  • The only time your happy as a couple is when your both using
  • Physical violence when using drugs
  • Only showing affection while high.
  • Substance misuse leads to isolation from friends and family.

Inpatient Couples Rehab at Coed Drug Rehab Centers

Coed drug rehab centers offer couples rehab to allow couples to attend treatment together. In inpatient couples rehab, couples attend therapy sessions together. Therapy sessions help couples motivate and support each other while healing the damage of addiction. 

What is Behavioral Couples Therapy?

Behavioral couples therapy or BCT is commonly used in coed drug rehab centers. This therapy involves both partners and therapists. BCT can reduce separations, divorces, domestic violence, and substance misuse. 

Three important goals of BCT are:

  • Eliminating the misuse of drugs and alcohol
  • Including family to support couples in recovery.
  • Restructuring the couple’s relationship to encourage lasting recovery

BCT can be healthy for couples in recovery as long as boundaries are set and respected. The decision to seek coed drug rehab centers can be difficult. But, supporting each other through couples rehab can increase a lifetime of being couples in recovery. 

Pros and Cons of Coed Drug Rehab Centers

The benefits of couples rehab include recovery from addiction and reducing the risk of recurrence of use. Couples rehab also improves family function by improving communication. As a result of couples in recovery, relationships are healthier and happier. 

However, there are risks to couples rehab. For example, both partners may not be equally committed to recovery or the relationship. But, couples rehab won’t be successful if both partners don’t want the same thing. Also, domestic violence can prevent one partner from being honest out of fear. 

How to Be a Better Partner After Couples Rehab

Starting over after couples, rehab means letting go of addictive behaviors, which made your life harder. Maybe your addiction caused a lot of yelling and tension; then it’s time to talk calmly and with patience. Your greatest change from coed drug rehab centers can be from the positive connections from people living their best life. 

The only way to have a healthy and happy relationship after couples rehab is to have a healthy relationship with yourself. The following are a few ways to love yourself and others.

  • Know who you are. Take time to understand what makes you happy, drives you, and what makes you feel confident. Knowing who you are, builds confidence which allows other people’s choices not to affect you. 
  • Be flexible. You can’t control other people’s choices. If your partner makes a choice you disagree with, it can be stressful. But being flexible when possible can go a long way in the outcome of the situation.
  • Follow through on commitments. When you say you are going to do something, then do it. Show up for the ones you love. Support your partner. And keep your commitment to support your partner through their recovery.
  • Practice compassion. Compassion and being judgment free is not meant for just other people. You also have to show yourself compassion. You and others need kindness and attention when facing difficulties. Practicing self-care and paying it forward to others improves everyone’s mood.

Couples in Recovery and the Importance of an Aftercare Program

Couples in recovery can be a great source of support once they complete couples rehab and manage their own addiction. With commitment, they can help each other avoid triggers and cravings while holding the other accountable. However, if one partner has a recurrence of use, it’s likely the other partner will follow. 

But, staying involved in an aftercare program can help couples in recovery stay in recovery. Aftercare programs may include 12-step programs such as Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and Narcotics Anonymous (NA). Members share their stories and experiences while supporting other couples in recovery.

Couples Rehab at Sana Lake Recovery Center

Couples struggling with addiction can find coed drug rehab centers beneficial to recovery. Seeking treatment together provides the added support needed to achieve Recovery for Life. Couples in recovery are more supportive and understanding of their partner while encouraging a life of recovery. Contact us today to find out if couples rehab is right for you. 

References:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3215582/

Article Reviewed by David Sherman, MD

David Sherman, MDDavid Sherman, MD is a Fellow of the American Society of Addiction Medicine (FASAM) and board certified in Addiction Medicine with the American Board of Preventive Medicine. He is a native Missourian and graduated medical school at the University of Missouri-Columbia School of Medicine. Dr. Sherman completed a two-year fellowship in Addiction Medicine at the University of Florida in Gainesville. He leads a highly trained staff of master level certified addiction professionals. Men and women from all over Missouri and the United States come to Sana Lake Recovery Center to get the care they need and deserve.